But if soulmates did exist, I could tell you where to find yours.
We are constantly reminded how much the God of The Bible loves men. Just not love, but favors and prefers men.
While this might be true in a communist society, it isn’t true with God.
Yes. Men are stronger. Men’s performance in both good and evil is highly extreme. Men’s recovery time is a lot faster than a woman’s recovery time. Let’s face it: if men are invited to join women sports, there will be no women sports.
Men who decide to do good, excel to great heights. When men are not tamed, they have capabilities and desires to destroy cities. Women uncivilized? Perhaps beeping through scanners at a local Walmart with stolen goods in her purse.
Yes. The Bible mentions men more. God has a (higher? Well, not quite.) different and yes- harder expectations for men. Even if we remove the religious aspects, (which seems to confirm the others) and focus on other aspects: women’s biology, the record of direct contribution to building, warfare, intellect, emotions, and rationality- explains in plain sight there are major differences between the sexes. Giving, what may appear, men the upper hand.
These truths may be hurtful to many insecure women. If you season this feeling of victimhood with a woman who hasn’t experienced love from a man, you have a broken woman.
One of the many reasons why the Lord is great is because He isn’t of this world. He isn’t a false god. He is the true God with radical ideas, foreign to our limited thinking. A God who is just? Forgiving with a sense of humor? A God who isn’t envious of man? A God who loves His creation?
A God who declares man is His favorite creation?
A God who would die in order to remarry His creation?
He loves man
The Lord created man before woman. The proof is there: the Lord didn’t think it is necessary to have women!
But quite the contrary.
According to the order of Creation, the Lord created many things before man. Does this hold true for light? For vegetable? For animal? No! We all know
Clearly, the Lord made the most complex and saved the best for last! Man finds his purpose in serving one woman. He needs a love from a woman. First his mother. Then wife and daughter. A woman holds a special place in a man’s heart.
Being the Lord loves man, He loves the woman who motivates him. That gives him worth. The one thing that separates man from his savage species is his family.
A woman civilizes a man via marriage. You see, God created a world intended for women and men to help each other. When we simply obey His word (which is difficult but possible) it makes life more pleasurable and a lot easier.
Of course, God smiles on this and blesses women. If women are blessed with good men, men and children will be forever happy. Which will radiate into the country…
Countries who mistreat women and children are poor
Take a look around the world. Do you know which countries are wealthy? Are headed towards prosperity?
Part of what made America great is its record for being the first country to value women. Mixed that with the religion and English language: Boom! You have a wealthy country with automobiles!
It was the West that came up with this tradition: women and children first. It’s no wonder the West has the best living status in the history of the world. Even if it is fading away, the truth is there. The truth is proven through time. Time shows that when men are responsible with supporting women by their side, life becomes much better for both parties.
Countries who mistreat their women and children are poor. While the men party, hold no responsibility for their actions and die young– it brings great agony to his legacy, parents
Clearly, God doesn’t have patience for this behavior. The proof is in the suffering.
God hears prayer
Negative behavior is given. No one has to teach you how to get fat, it comes naturally. But to build muscle? Strict eating habits and training- there is so much data and knowledge to be learned.
Therefore, men behaved naturally sexually inappropriate. God heard the cries of the women. In the Bible, the Lord lays down the law on how men should conduct themselves with their bodies. Who he can sleep with. What his seed is designed to do.
There was a great uproar from men: does the Lord punish us? What with all these restrictions, we will no longer have a sex life!
The idea of marrying one woman. To love, protect and provide for her was a radical idea. (Today, it is still seen radical.) However, time showed it works.
Marriage is easily seen to benefit the woman almost immediately. But for a man? It takes time. Years even! (Similar to childhood with sons and daughters!)
He begins to notice that living as single man by a certain age is no good for him. The best investment he made was marrying a good woman who gave him children. He has wealth only if he has a backing. His backing is his wife and children.
Once a desire to be forever young and foolish is no longer attractive. The lifestyle brings you into dark, lonely times while feeling meaningless.
Single men with no children are much poorer than a married man with children. In fact, a single man with no children is
After Christianity became the main religion in Europe, the Church also heard the cries from the widows, wives, and daughters. Their men were not around. When men were encouraged to seek marriage, stay married and be a father- parts of Europe lighten up.
The status of a man went high because of his commitment to his family.
Men finally received the need and love of a woman that they so badly needed. Women received the wanting and security of a man that they so badly needed. After this marriage agreement, wealth was just around the corner.
Let my people go, for they may go worship the Lord
Recently, I read in the book of Exodus about Moses going to Pharaoh requesting him to set his people free.
Two new ideas were conceive as I read this story for the 1,000th time:
When you pray to God, tell Him why.
When Moses goes to Pharaoh in the book of Exodus, he delivers the message of the Lord:
“Let my people go, so that they may worship me.”Exodus 10:3
Often we hear a preacher misquote Moses. They don’t follow up with the rest of the request; “so that they may worship me.”
When you are in prayer, tell God why you are requesting something. Do it over and over again. Let it be meaningful.
The second light bulb that went on while reading this story, is this:
God wanted the women and children.
Did you know Pharaoh already have permitted Moses to take his people and go worship? The men that
Pharaoh said, “the Lord be with you– if I let you go, along with your women and children! Clearly you are bent on evil. No! Have only the men go and worship the Lord,”Exodus 10:10
The immediate follow up was the plague in Egypt.
It is natural to give men only these rights. You see it today throughout Asia and the Middle East. But God is supernatural. He wanted all: the men, women, children, animals and their belongings.
He leaves no one behind.
After I discovered this, I went for a drive. Thinking about how good God is. He is a God who is just and loves His creation. The lies of the world can be seductive. They often are accepted because it makes excuses to be lazy so much better.
The common lie of a communist is: There is no God! And if there were, he doesn’t love women! Look at the treatment from men. Look at your bodies and brain size. Clearly, you’re weak! Embrace the new being: a godless world citizen who rejects the individual and works for the community. There is your purpose!
How depressing! My heart breaks for those who purchased this lie and spent their life in this manner.
For men, the message is similar with a twist: they tell young men that women who seek marriage are gold diggers! Lazy! Stupid! A real man sleeps around with no strings attached. A real man doesn’t support his country. A real man doesn’t enlist in the army to fight bankers wars! A real man finds power through crime, bonds through with a brotherhood of thugs and takes what was
If only the message was this blunt. But if you really listen carefully to the public speaker- he admits this.
Well, I got great news for you: God does love you and He wants you to earn your living. You have great expectations. Disregard the lies of the world that is naturally pulling in a negative direction. Fight against it towards the light.
Of course He has called you out.
You keep coming back to Him.
Yes, I have discovered the answer to one of life’s greatest secret treasures: how to get your husband to do what you want.
Hold the applause until the end.
Reading up on Men’s magazines, their books and eavesdropping in on their podcast- I learned a bit more about our furry partners called men. Apparently, the fur is designed to protect men from facing nature’s danger… and it’s also used as a defensive mechanism against other creatures- including women!
But it wasn’t until many years of marriage and having a son did I finally get to tap in (from a far distance because I still lack understanding of the male species) on the man’s brain.
Is there a way to get across to our husbands, peacefully while achieving a win/win outcome?
Oh, you better believe it!
No more nagging.
No more complaining.
No more explaining.
No more silent treatment.
No more “constructive criticism.” – (They really dislike this one. More on this later.)
Note to men: Please let me know if I’m correct, almost or not even close.
Time to sit back and enjoy marriage like it’s designed for.
It’s clear we love our husbands. However, society insists people are “born this way.” As some fool once said, “If you love someone, you wouldn’t change them.”
Give me a break.
Life is about change and growth. We aren’t animals in a vicious cycle, are we? No. We have a purpose. A constant yearning to strive. A challenge. A goal with structure and deadlines. Accomplishment in the face of struggle makes us alive.
Therefore, of course, we want our husband to grow. We want him with more money. More time with us and the children. More help around the house. More in touch with God. (And with more muscle…) When we bring this up, it comes off to him as “complaints and nagging” to his ears.
Bottom line he isn’t listening via talk or email. You’re not getting through to him.
Next, you seriously sit down and have a conversation with him. You politely explain to him that you love him. This is only constructive criticism which is intended to help both of us- our marriage, you rationalize.
Yikes. That did it.
Translation to a man’s brain: I’m not man enough?! Nothing is ever good for you. You’re comparing me to other men. I lack ambition? I work my butt off for this family!
Well. May I suggest another route? Honestly.
What else do you have to lose?
These 4 methods have been proven in my personal life. I’ve also seen it done within marriages of over 15+ years. Each method goes accordingly to different circumstances. Be wise about your approach. Be honest as well. The arguments will lessen. The stress is less. Both parties will get what they want- and yes. The love and romance will skyrocket.
Absence makes the heart fonder
Time apart does wonders. Ask any corporate and/or military wife. Being apart from one another makes us want each other more. Including doing acts for the other spouse. Promises you now make while apart, to which you do intend to keep because that is how much you miss each other! You’ll be amazed at the level of flirtation, text messages and romance received through distance. Once united: it will feel so good!
Always see each other? Well, buzz off somewhere for a few hours! Tell him to visit his parents. Or encourage him to get a testosterone boost by hanging out with his buddies. (Men need male bonding more than women need “girl time.” More on that within a different post.) Go out shopping without him but take his credit card. (You see, he is still there.. via MasterCard.) Just take some time apart where you can actually recharge and miss each other.
Sometimes words don’t need to be spoken. A look of seduction. Or a look in need will get the job done.
Don’t be confused with the silent treatment, which can go on for days and turn ugly. This eye contact is a one time use, and use it for a brief interaction.
Suppose he is being difficult. Just stop the conversation by looking at him. Smile halfway. Then let him proceed. The moment of silence (with a Mona Lisa smile) will make him rethink his position. This one works extremely well for me, personally and requires little from my end.
How are you dressed?
This is my favorite because I’m a master at this.
Men are visual creatures. Although men don’t care if you are wearing a $2,000 dress or a $20 dress- they want you to look good. (This grooming helps our mood if we do. This is also a win/win.) Yes, your husband “loves you for who you are.” Also, I’m aware you “love your husband through hard times.” But why place yourself there when it’s unnecessary?
Men: don’t assume your wife will be tolerant for long if you’re unemployed for too long. Women: don’t expect your husband to still lust after you when you haven’t waxed your eyebrows in 2 years and he only sees you in a grandmother’s nightgown.
Men want their women so attractive, they will even provide the funding. Give it a try.
Next time he comes home, make sure you’re wearing a dress with heels and have your hair done. Bonus if you have food ready for him.
His mood will be lifted. Make this a lifestyle because doing it once- it gets pretty suspicious and may come across artificial. Men love a natural feminine woman. They strongly dislike a woman they have to compete with. Be his companion. His helper. He is already fighting against the world. He already loves you. (A man doesn’t marry for security, wealth or status purposes. They do so for love.) This type of effort from your part will urge him to move mountains for you.
You wouldn’t believe what I got my husband to do just by dressing up in a red dress, red lipstick, heels and having his dinner ready for him before he came home.
The man suddenly became a highly skilled carpenter. (Among other things!) Besides. I do enjoy how my legs look in this outfit…
Now. For The Secret Weapon: OTHER MEN!
Here it is. Try using “logic” to get your husband to make a move. Try crying. Try sex even. It won’t work!
Do you know men turn off a woman’s speech just after the first 6 minutes? That’s why you’re repeating yourself and reassuring he is listening. (He is not.) But men can honestly hear another man speak (with the same message!) for hours! Outrageous, I’ll say.
If you want your husband, for example, to exercise more- he has to hear the message from his friends. There is no other choice. This is the secret weapon right here: It has to come from other men he respects.
The idea also has to come from him when you both sit down and talk about it. Men have a strong desire to be needed. Their brains. Their muscle. Their love must be needed. They want to be able to provide and protect. They need to deliver results. They have a deep longing to be needed.., especially by a woman! ONE woman.
While women, (who don’t want that burden of being needed) desire to be wanted. You do want your husband to want you? To cater to you? To know what you want? Well then. Allow him to figure things out. To take charge. Let him know you need him.
If your husband discusses growth with another man, he will come home to you excited like a young boy who just received a Ninja Turtle toy: “Honey, guess what? A great idea!” (An idea that you secretly wanted him to jump on for a while.)
Think back to any bright ideas you may have had. Sure, he might have agreed to do them. Only to deliver with a sloppy job with a half heart in it- hoping it will fail. He is eager to say to you: You see. I told you so!
But if it came from him, he cannot retreat to this conduct. He must follow through. It is best sealed when it came from speaking or even watching other men.
After the task is complete, he will be a new man. A better one. A stronger one. He will also know he couldn’t have accomplished it without you.
Therefore, both parties will get what their hearts truly desires. However, in order to do this- one must use their head.
Now go ahead and have your husband build that bookcase you’ve been wanting him to do.
Don’t forget to put on lipstick!
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