Be selfish for you can be generous

No man will work for your interest unless they are his

David Seabury

The quote above tells how the entire world works. However, America has executed this truth in a unique way. Which its result caused an abundance of wealth, leadership and security.


Being selfish has always been seen as a negative thing.

In the East, it’s every man for his own. You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours… maybe.

Unless you are someone who appears to have wealth, a tourist (or if you’re dealing with a seriously religious person)- the world is not a fan of generosity. They must think of themselves and then close relatives in order to survive.

The West, particularly America, on the other hand, has a different motto which separates itself from the rest of the world.

Whether in a large scale such as America getting involved in foreign wars: a selfish motive unless it’s a direct attack or to prevent one, for the citizens of the United States.

How about on a smaller scale such as the individual: one investing on his own needs before doing favors for others- also may seem selfish.

The way America has handled foreign policy to a personal citizen’s choice, has overall been a step to the right direction.


America conducts itself differently

To be prepared for war is one of the most effectual means to preserving peace

George Washington Jan. 8th 1790 First annual message to congress

The 5 Star general military expert and America’s first president was aware that if potential enemies know that America is ready for war, with weapons and training, then enemies will not even flirt with the idea to commit aggression against the United States.

This thinking from our nation’s beloved first president still holds truth today. Washington is not only talking about a wellformed army (which many countries already have) but its citizens also to be armed and disciplined.

Another popular idea of many countries is foreign involvement. Mostly for real estate, power and control reasons. America is different from this policy as well. Washington tells America to avoid being dragged into overseas conflict:

It is our true policy to steer clear of permanent alliance with any portion of the foreign world…. are essentially foreign to our concerns…. America’s detached and distant situation… [should be an easier avoidant into warfare.]

George Washington

Washington made it clear if a nation which “indulges towards another a habitual hatred or a habitual fondness is in some degree a slave’– it gets distracted and suspends its only duty of pursuing its own true interest.

Two easy ways the American can avoid meddling into foreign affairs: our values are different. Our geographical location, separated from the world by two large oceans also represents something deeper. It brings us back to our first point of having different ideas of a nation.

Although the wisdom of Washington cannot be stressed more, Americans have recently abandoned their leader’s advice and joined the activities of the world. After WW2, the NATO agreement offered very little for the American but gave much American money and man power for Europe.

America is able to do good while being the first to respond to tragedies; both domestically and internationally because America focused on itself for many years. America also set the bar high for human achievement and became a world influence by setting an upright example in practice that the world wishes to mimic.


Should the individual be selfish to eventually become generous?

Well, how else can one offer something if he doesn’t have the means to offer?

Just because someone is willing to do something doesn’t mean much if he isn’t ready to provide it.

Similar to Washington’s advice to prepare for warfare- even if you’re not going to war, one must be ready to back up the talk to avoid the fight. Now, how can he prepare himself if he has no weapons? No training? No right to bare arms?

At an early stage of the nation or individual, these values must be taught. It is also better to learn skills and have training young in order to make life much more easier for the long run.

If your noble goal is to serve your community (and profit comes second or none)- God bless you for your rare motive! This too was the pilgrims’ desire: to create God’s kingdom on earth. Gold came second or not even important. However, the pilgrims still had to offer something uniquely different from the world. Their knowledge of scriptures and carrying it out daily, took a massive commitment to lifetime training and dedication.

If the goal was to, for example, teach reading for people can read the Bible, (many people all over the world were illiterate)- then first the teacher needed to know how to read for himself. At one point in his life, this teacher spent hours learning how to read, and then to understand the Bible. Only after this is he able to teach others.

People will listen to those who understand and practices his work- not to someone who speaks like a blabbering pagan.

Suppose your main goal is profit. Honestly, profit is the best goal. While I agree with the pilgrims’ religious teachings, I would certainly disagree with the Marxist teachings. Had a Marxist came off the Mayflower, free or pay- I am not interested in a Marxist utopian idea. You might not be interested in the Bible. But money is the proof of hard work and free exchange for all ideas. This is where a Marxist and religious person can shake hands in a transaction.

In order to do so, one party must have previously invested his time to create and develop his service or product. It might have seemed selfish when he started his mission, but the community eventually benefited through his sacrifice of immediate pleasure for a long term goal of uncertain wealth.

On the flip side, the consumer must have earned his wealth elsewhere in order to purchase the innovator’s product. The consumer himself is an investor: both in the product and how he obtains his wealth to even make this transaction.

Another motivation is love.

Have you seen anyone more selfish than a 15-year-old boy? Everything is certainly about him. But introduce a beautiful girl, now the young boy has the interest to suddenly become a highly skilled electrician to purchase this girl the best flowers he can.

No matter for the greater good, profit or love- one must develop himself in order to be generous. This requires disciple, structure, sacrifice, practice, training and even isolation in order to achieve greatness.


The time when the act of selfishness must be suspended

Is there a time or situation when being selfish must be avoided?

Yes.

In relationships: Marriage. As individuals with parents. As parents with children. There is no room for your selfish ways at this moment.

One thing I’ve notice reading Ayn Rand books is that there are no children in them. Also translating to, no future.

There must be a future. A purpose in order to have a meaningful life.

When you’re in a relationship, its a two way street. You might not want to visit grandma and watch watch her play crossword puzzles with an old neighbor named Sally. But as her grandchild, you know you’re obligated to do so every Sunday afternoon.

Although it’s only one day of the week she sees you, you’re the reason why she gets out of bed each day. She looks forward to your Sunday visits starting when you leave Sunday evening. Even if they are spent in silence, your presence alone shows you care.

After you leave your weekly visit, you have a sense of worth. You not only committed to family but you begin to think: I won’t be alone either when I’m her age.

This works the opposite: be generous (with your time, something that requires zero training). You’ll experience by doing so, you’re actually gaining self-control. Honoring your word. Patience. Human interaction. So much more virtues that you can take with you into the workforce and in romace.

You’ll eventually have the same treatment in return. Even if there is nothing to gain other than your smile. Remember, like money, people are attracted to good energy. Something you have unknowligly developed through your Sunday visits with grandma.

The same works with gift giving. This has been practiced in every culture for thousands of years.

You’re giving not because the Bible says so, your parents or even society told you too. You’re giving because you want too. Again, invest in yourself for you can experience this joy at anytime.

What is the hidden exchange with gift giving?

First, the person you’re giving too must accept your gift. Their smile, joy, and suspense are worth the giving. This brings a sensation to you of accomplishment.

You were not only thanked, but for a moment you were seen. Heard. Even within love, there is a trade-off.

The trade off is not material, but more of a spiritual one.

This is one, which is love, is the best deal made.

Here are 4 reasons I know God loves women and children

We are constantly reminded how much the God of The Bible loves men. Just not love, but favors and prefers men.

While this might be true in a communist society, it isn’t true with God.

Yes. Men are stronger. Men’s performance in both good and evil is highly extreme. Men’s recovery time is a lot faster than a woman’s recovery time. Let’s face it: if men are invited to join women sports, there will be no women sports.

Men who decide to do good, excel to great heights. When men are not tamed, they have capabilities and desires to destroy cities. Women uncivilized? Perhaps beeping through scanners at a local Walmart with stolen goods in her purse.

Yes. The Bible mentions men more. God has a (higher? Well, not quite.) different and yes- harder expectations for men. Even if we remove the religious aspects, (which seems to confirm the others) and focus on other aspects: women’s biology, the record of direct contribution to building, warfare, intellect, emotions, and rationality- explains in plain sight there are major differences between the sexes. Giving, what may appear, men the upper hand.

These truths may be hurtful to many insecure women. If you season this feeling of victimhood with a woman who hasn’t experienced love from a man, you have a broken woman.

Cheer up.

One of the many reasons why the Lord is great is because He isn’t of this world. He isn’t a false god. He is the true God with radical ideas, foreign to our limited thinking. A God who is just? Forgiving with a sense of humor? A God who isn’t envious of man? A God who loves His creation?

A God who declares man is His favorite creation?

A God who would die in order to remarry His creation?


He loves man

The Lord created man before woman. The proof is there: the Lord didn’t think it is necessary to have women!

But quite the contrary.

According to the order of Creation, the Lord created many things before man. Does this hold true for light? For vegetable? For animal? No! We all know man is on top of the food chain.

Clearly, the Lord made the most complex and saved the best for last! Man finds his purpose in serving one woman. He needs a love from a woman. First his mother. Then wife and daughter. A woman holds a special place in a man’s heart.

Being the Lord loves man, He loves the woman who motivates him. That gives him worth. The one thing that separates man from his savage species is his family.

A woman civilizes a man via marriage. You see, God created a world intended for women and men to help each other. When we simply obey His word (which is difficult but possible) it makes life more pleasurable and a lot easier.

Of course, God smiles on this and blesses women. If women are blessed with good men, men and children will be forever happy. Which will radiate into the country…  

Countries who mistreat women and children are poor

Take a look around the world. Do you know which countries are wealthy? Are headed towards prosperity?

Part of what made America great is its record for being the first country to value women. Mixed that with the religion and English language: Boom! You have a wealthy country with automobiles!

It was the West that came up with this tradition: women and children first. It’s no wonder the West has the best living status in the history of the world. Even if it is fading away, the truth is there. The truth is proven through time. Time shows that when men are responsible with supporting women by their side, life becomes much better for both parties.

Countries who mistreat their women and children are poor. While the men party, hold no responsibility for their actions and die young– it brings great agony to his legacy, parents and country.

Clearly, God doesn’t have patience for this behavior. The proof is in the suffering.

God hears prayer

Negative behavior is given. No one has to teach you how to get fat, it comes naturally. But to build muscle? Strict eating habits and training- there is so much data and knowledge to be learned.

Therefore, men behaved naturally sexually inappropriate. God heard the cries of the women. In the Bible, the Lord lays down the law on how men should conduct themselves with their bodies. Who he can sleep with. What his seed is designed to do.

There was a great uproar from men: does the Lord punish us? What with all these restrictions, we will no longer have a sex life!

The idea of marrying one woman. To love, protect and provide for her was a radical idea. (Today, it is still seen radical.) However, time showed it works.

Marriage is easily seen to benefit the woman almost immediately. But for a man? It takes time. Years even! (Similar to childhood with sons and daughters!)

He begins to notice that living as single man by a certain age is no good for him. The best investment he made was marrying a good woman who gave him children. He has wealth only if he has a backing. His backing is his wife and children.

Once a desire to be forever young and foolish is no longer attractive. The lifestyle brings you into dark, lonely times while feeling meaningless.

Single men with no children are much poorer than a married man with children. In fact, a single man with no children is more poor than a single woman with children!

After Christianity became the main religion in Europe, the Church also heard the cries from the widows, wives, and daughters. Their men were not around. When men were encouraged to seek marriage, stay married and be a father- parts of Europe lighten up.

The status of a man went high because of his commitment to his family.

Men finally received the need and love of a woman that they so badly needed. Women received the wanting and security of a man that they so badly needed. After this marriage agreement, wealth was just around the corner.

Let my people go, for they may go worship the Lord

Recently, I read in the book of Exodus about Moses going to Pharaoh requesting him to set his people free.

Two new ideas were conceive as I read this story for the 1,000th time:

When you pray to God, tell Him why.

When Moses goes to Pharaoh in the book of Exodus, he delivers the message of the Lord:

“Let my people go, so that they may worship me.”

Exodus 10:3

Often we hear a preacher misquote Moses. They don’t follow up with the rest of the request; “so that they may worship me.

When you are in prayer, tell God why you are requesting something. Do it over and over again. Let it be meaningful.

The second light bulb that went on while reading this story, is this:

God wanted the women and children.

What?!

Did you know Pharaoh already have permitted Moses to take his people and go worship? The men that is

Pharaoh said, “the Lord be with you– if I let you go, along with your women and children! Clearly you are bent on evil. No! Have only the men go and worship the Lord,”

Exodus 10:10

The immediate follow up was the plague in Egypt.

It is natural to give men only these rights. You see it today throughout Asia and the Middle East. But God is supernatural. He wanted all: the men, women, children, animals and their belongings.

He leaves no one behind.


After I discovered this, I went for a drive. Thinking about how good God is. He is a God who is just and loves His creation. The lies of the world can be seductive. They often are accepted because it makes excuses to be lazy so much better.

The common lie of a communist is: There is no God! And if there were, he doesn’t love women! Look at the treatment from men. Look at your bodies and brain size. Clearly, you’re weak! Embrace the new being: a godless world citizen who rejects the individual and works for the community. There is your purpose!

How depressing! My heart breaks for those who purchased this lie and spent their life in this manner.

For men, the message is similar with a twist: they tell young men that women who seek marriage are gold diggers! Lazy! Stupid! A real man sleeps around with no strings attached. A real man doesn’t support his country. A real man doesn’t enlist in the army to fight bankers wars! A real man finds power through crime, bonds through with a brotherhood of thugs and takes what was originally his!

If only the message was this blunt. But if you really listen carefully to the public speaker- he admits this.

Well, I got great news for you: God does love you and He wants you to earn your living. You have great expectations. Disregard the lies of the world that is naturally pulling in a negative direction. Fight against it towards the light.

Of course He has called you out.

You keep coming back to Him.

Enjoy marriage: How to get your husband to do anything

Yes, I have discovered the answer to one of life’s greatest secret treasures: how to get your husband to do what you want.

Please.

Hold the applause until the end.

Reading up on Men’s magazines, their books and eavesdropping in on their podcast- I learned a bit more about our furry partners called men. Apparently, the fur is designed to protect men from facing nature’s danger… and it’s also used as a defensive mechanism against other creatures- including women!

But it wasn’t until many years of marriage and having a son did I finally get to tap in (from a far distance because I still lack understanding of the male species) on the man’s brain.

Is there a way to get across to our husbands, peacefully while achieving a win/win outcome?

Oh, you better believe it!

Ladies.
No more nagging.
No more complaining.
No more explaining.
No more silent treatment.

No more “constructive criticism.” – (They really dislike this one. More on this later.)
Note to men: Please let me know if I’m correct, almost or not even close.

Time to sit back and enjoy marriage like it’s designed for.


It’s clear we love our husbands. However, society insists people are “born this way.” As some fool once said, “If you love someone, you wouldn’t change them.”

Give me a break.

Life is about change and growth. We aren’t animals in a vicious cycle, are we? No. We have a purpose. A constant yearning to strive. A challenge. A goal with structure and deadlines. Accomplishment in the face of struggle makes us alive.

Therefore, of course, we want our husband to grow. We want him with more money. More time with us and the children. More help around the house. More in touch with God. (And with more muscle…) When we bring this up, it comes off to him as “complaints and nagging” to his ears.

Bottom line he isn’t listening via talk or email. You’re not getting through to him.

Next, you seriously sit down and have a conversation with him. You politely explain to him that you love him. This is only constructive criticism which is intended to help both of us- our marriage, you rationalize.

Yikes. That did it.

Translation to a man’s brain: I’m not man enough?! Nothing is ever good for you. You’re comparing me to other men. I lack ambition? I work my butt off for this family! 

Sounds familiar?

Well. May I suggest another route? Honestly.

What else do you have to lose?

These 4 methods have been proven in my personal life. I’ve also seen it done within marriages of over 15+ years. Each method goes accordingly to different circumstances. Be wise about your approach. Be honest as well. The arguments will lessen. The stress is less. Both parties will get what they want- and yes. The love and romance will skyrocket.


Absence makes the heart fonder

Time apart does wonders. Ask any corporate and/or military wife. Being apart from one another makes us want each other more. Including doing acts for the other spouse. Promises you now make while apart, to which you do intend to keep because that is how much you miss each other! You’ll be amazed at the level of flirtation, text messages and romance received through distance. Once united: it will feel so good!

Always see each other? Well, buzz off somewhere for a few hours! Tell him to visit his parents. Or encourage him to get a testosterone boost by hanging out with his buddies. (Men need male bonding more than women need “girl time.” More on that within a different post.) Go out shopping without him but take his credit card. (You see, he is still there.. via MasterCard.) Just take some time apart where you can actually recharge and miss each other.

Eye contact

Sometimes words don’t need to be spoken. A look of seduction. Or a look in need will get the job done.

Don’t be confused with the silent treatment, which can go on for days and turn ugly. This eye contact is a one time use, and use it for a brief interaction.

Suppose he is being difficult. Just stop the conversation by looking at him. Smile halfway. Then let him proceed. The moment of silence (with a Mona Lisa smile) will make him rethink his position. This one works extremely well for me, personally and requires little from my end.

How are you dressed?

This is my favorite because I’m a master at this.

Men are visual creatures. Although men don’t care if you are wearing a $2,000 dress or a $20 dress- they want you to look good. (This grooming helps our mood if we do. This is also a win/win.) Yes, your husband “loves you for who you are.” Also, I’m aware you “love your husband through hard times.” But why place yourself there when it’s unnecessary?

Men: don’t assume your wife will be tolerant for long if you’re unemployed for too long. Women: don’t expect your husband to still lust after you when you haven’t waxed your eyebrows in 2 years and he only sees you in a grandmother’s nightgown.

Men want their women so attractive, they will even provide the funding. Give it a try.

Next time he comes home, make sure you’re wearing a dress with heels and have your hair done. Bonus if you have food ready for him.

His mood will be lifted. Make this a lifestyle because doing it once- it gets pretty suspicious and may come across artificial. Men love a natural feminine woman. They strongly dislike a woman they have to compete with. Be his companion. His helper. He is already fighting against the world. He already loves you. (A man doesn’t marry for security, wealth or status purposes. They do so for love.) This type of effort from your part will urge him to move mountains for you.

You wouldn’t believe what I got my husband to do just by dressing up in a red dress, red lipstick, heels and having his dinner ready for him before he came home.

The man suddenly became a highly skilled carpenter. (Among other things!) Besides. I do enjoy how my legs look in this outfit…

Now. For The Secret Weapon: OTHER MEN!

Here it is. Try using “logic” to get your husband to make a move. Try crying. Try sex even. It won’t work!

Do you know men turn off a woman’s speech just after the first 6 minutes? That’s why you’re repeating yourself and reassuring he is listening. (He is not.) But men can honestly hear another man speak (with the same message!) for hours! Outrageous, I’ll say.

If you want your husband, for example, to exercise more- he has to hear the message from his friends. There is no other choice. This is the secret weapon right here: It has to come from other men he respects.

The idea also has to come from him when you both sit down and talk about it. Men have a strong desire to be needed. Their brains. Their muscle. Their love must be needed. They want to be able to provide and protect. They need to deliver results. They have a deep longing to be needed.., especially by a woman! ONE woman.

While women, (who don’t want that burden of being needed) desire to be wanted. You do want your husband to want you? To cater to you? To know what you want? Well then. Allow him to figure things out. To take charge. Let him know you need him.

If your husband discusses growth with another man, he will come home to you excited like a young boy who just received a Ninja Turtle toy: “Honey, guess what? A great idea!” (An idea that you secretly wanted him to jump on for a while.)

Think back to any bright ideas you may have had. Sure, he might have agreed to do them. Only to deliver with a sloppy job with a half heart in it- hoping it will fail. He is eager to say to you: You see. I told you so!

But if it came from him, he cannot retreat to this conduct. He must follow through. It is best sealed when it came from speaking or even watching other men.

After the task is complete, he will be a new man. A better one. A stronger one. He will also know he couldn’t have accomplished it without you.

Therefore, both parties will get what their hearts truly desires. However, in order to do this- one must use their head.

Now go ahead and have your husband build that bookcase you’ve been wanting him to do.

Don’t forget to put on lipstick!

To soulmate or helpmate? That is the question.

The Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him. – Genesis 2:18   Many people in our society today is in love with the idea of being in love. For many, people would pour a heavy amount of energy on the wedding… Continue reading To soulmate or helpmate? That is the question.

The unspoken girl power

Beware of false knowledge; it is more dangerous than ignorance.

-George Bernard Shaw

Seeing an ad promoting what my mind rejects always intrigues me.

Intrigued in a sense where I don’t doubt myself, instead I ask myself: who would believe this nonsense?

But as it turns out- many people do buy into the unreal.

Going to college for advertising drew my attention to identify the trickery methods used. For example: The colors red and yellow trigger hunger strikes to the brain. This is why it is used for mostly all fast food advertising- even laced into their logos.

Advertisement works (why else will a company invest millions into it?) for commercial purposes. Advertising also works to influence society. The goal is to sell you something. A product. A service. An ideology.

One of the most common themes of society’s slogans goes as follows: “Girls run the world.” “Girl power.” “The future is female.”

Amazingly enough, society’s messages are great with telling half-truths. Just like all advertisement. What’s interesting about this agenda (girl power) is the reason why society is truly promoting this. There are many spectulations but I tend to agree with this one: to weaken the West/world to set forward for an easy worldwide tyranny.

We all experieced the painful inconvenient to life, One Million Women’s March. Now could you imagine a One Million Men’s March? That is war.

This post will not focus on the possbile motivation to this movement, but rather to zoom in on why women don’t need to submit to this ideology to “feel” empowered. She has already been empowered- without a women’s movement or organization.

Let’s keep one basic principle in mind: if one has to boast (or raise “awareness”) it probably isn’t all that great to begin with. The idea or the product can sell for itself. Think back at your Apple store. How many advertisements have you seen of their products? A few, but not many. When you walk by an Apple store, it’s always busy. The store operates as a showroom. The product sells itself. The consumer knows what he/she wants.


 

The fable of the girl power. The Making of the New Woman: She sleeps with whoever she likes- without the development of feelings, guilt or risk of STDs. She has access to abortions paid by men while claiming her independence. This New Woman marches troops into Moscow during winter without training and easily capturing the city.  She plays a sport with just as much or more endurance of a man. She is able to fight off a large man without any formal training or weapon at hand. The New Woman, almost godlike, receives high-quality wisdom through little to no life experience. Lastly, while she is competeing against men she continues to assault other women and ignores the sufferings of real victims to only focus on her life decisions (always made correctly) and pleasures.

Is this New Woman even human at this point?

This is not a productive, healthy nor realistic view and it actually hurts women in the long run. Causing a stunt to growth of human innovation and relations. It hurts men and children if women have this odd mindset. Instead of seeking an artificial power, women should elevate their given talents and gifts to the highest point.

One easy advantage women have is getting a man to do what she wants.

Yes, it’s really that simple but such a powerful tool when used correctly. The best part is that there is no need to “trick” or mislead a man. There is a common understanding with this, moreover- he welcomes it!

Women shouldn’t waste an entire lifetime playing games that conflict with our natural desires and abilities. While some desires are not helpful to becoming a better person, other desires are.

Most women enjoy being with their family and community. Women enjoy people while men typically enjoy things. Women enjoy shopping and looking beautiful. They enjoy being wanted by a man. The real power is to embrace this with little effort making your life more easier and the less use of muscle labor.  If given the option, women should embrace this to help ease the burdens of a painful life.

 


 

Take a look throughout the historical figures we analyze. The bravery of those men was only enhanced and executed because of the women in their life. Noah finished building his arc because of the wife he had. The Bible speaks little of her, but we can assume she was a good wife because Noah finished the job God told him to do.  The job requires muscle pull, but work is very stressful and Noah needed a mental support system as well.

When men go to war to protect their homeland, do you know what is the top priority? Is it to preserve the lovely skyscrapers and bridges? Yes that is part of it, for surely the enemy will reduce the structures into ashes. But the top concern is to protect their women and children who are indeed the foundation of these structures. Women and children will be the most immediate gift to the enemy if they achieve their goal of conquering, not the real estate or resources which takes longer to see the benefits.  (I read a lot of war books.)

Note: take a look at the poorest countries in the world. Then examine the relationship between men and women there. A country’s wealth is determined by the way the women and children are treated. If the men take responsibility or not. If the men abuse the power or not. If the men are present or not.

When women are man’s weakness, all is good for the woman for she has an advantage.

Recently women have subconsciously rejected this gift and subscribed to the notion of “independence”. Only to ask herself why no man loves her? But she rejected love in the pursuit of (at many times unnecessary) labor.

I’ve understood this unspoken power since my father. One look and he gave me anything I wanted. Then as I got older, I applied that logic to the young boys at my school. Let’s just say, Valentine’s Day was never a dull holiday! Moving into the workforce, I would hardly call it work. My experience at all my jobs went well because of the (men) management above me. Who needed a worker’s union when you have a beautiful smile? That was my job security because it certainly wasn’t a worker’s union or my work ethic.

My success is never credited to a woman’s organization.

My success is credited to God, my parents, family and the use of my human mind. (Smiling helped. Bigly.)


Options

To be a professional or not to be? That is the question.

One of the greatest gifts that emerged from the industrial revolution is that women (not men) have an option to join the workforce. If she wants to work 40+ hours then quit her job to world travel, she has that option. If she seeks a part-time job at her hometown to be near her children’s school, she has that option. If she wants to devote herself to a life of a homemaker, there is that option. Underneath all the noise of the world, society will ignore a woman’s (private) decision on this issue more than a man’s decision not to participate in the workforce.

Anyone who attacks these options in the name of the “common good” is not pre-Middle Ages, but pre-language. There is nothing progressive or “new” with the idea of working from sunrise to sunset like an animal without the freedom not too.

The true girl power energy should be directed to being who you truly are. If it truly is a career woman- best of luck to you! But no one should be guilt into doing a line of work, this includes marriage and parenthood. I’ve seen many women tricked, hurt and broken by making bad decisions all because they have listened to what society has told them. If our current wave is taking the woman out of the home or forcing the woman into the kitchen- both can be troublesome and extreme. This is why a balanced lifestyle between structure and freedom to choose should always remain in a civil society.

Meanwhile, those who they took advice from on how to live, never practiced what they preached. Those who attacked marriage were married. Those who attacked money, always had money themselves. (Karl Marx, I’m talking to you.) These are the hypocrites. Then the ones who lack experience want to offer unsolicited advice: childless people writing parenting books or worst- running the board of education. People who have no interest in helping their host country seeks to run public office to (slowly) change the laws. A Spanish Pope rewriting an entire religion because of what he feels.

Once a woman learns to truly love herself. Show kindness. Be polite. Resourceful. Patient. Go through terrible experiences and overcome the tragic events with an optimistic attitude about life. Being thankful. Sincerely enjoy her place in the world. Loving the women in her life before becoming a spokeswoman for the foreign woman. Realizing giving support to the men in her life is helping the women in hers as well. A woman who didn’t fall prey to society’s control hold. She not only becomes more beautiful but inspirational to all.


Honorable mentions of  women throughout history that had their cake and ate it too:

  • Cleopatra’s hold on Julius Caesar and Marc Anthony
  • Josephine’s pull to a young Napoleon who wouldn’t move his troops without her approval
  • Mona Lisa’s smile shows the contrast between reserve and seduction
  • Bathsheba knowing when and where to get the attention from King David- as if accidental
  • Marilyn Monroe’s walk, soft speech and eye contact to get the US President’s approval

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

No, I didn’t marry my best friend. Here’s why:

“Baby, am I your best friend?” I asked my husband. Although I already knew the answer- I needed to hear it from him. After a burst of laughter he coldly answered: “No.” Well. Likewise! But let’s be honest. We often hear people say: “Marry someone who you could laugh with. Travel with. Have fun with.… Continue reading No, I didn’t marry my best friend. Here’s why:

The most evil man in the world

Be aware of the man who claims “money is evil. Money is the root to all evil.” Run from this man as quickly as possible. That is a signal alert to a looter approaching you. As long as men live on this planet and need a way to deal with one another- money should be… Continue reading The most evil man in the world

7 ways to obtain the Fountain of Youth… without socialism

  Readers caution: Most of you are aware. I speak a foreign language. It’s called: The truth. The things you will inquire below will indeed make you uncomfortable. Some things will be refreshing. Some things might sound otherworldly and far-fetch. I speak out of experience and through heavy observation of studying others.      … Continue reading 7 ways to obtain the Fountain of Youth… without socialism

The Bicycle: The Importance of Siblings

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.”   Romans 12:10        Often when one thinks of a sibling, “love” doesn’t immediately come to mind. Despite if that was the reason or intention of the relationship. What we do frequently hear, is about the infamous “sibling rivalry” instead.… Continue reading The Bicycle: The Importance of Siblings

We can’t help it: We believe what we hear

    After the collapse of the royal house of Saul, David was careful to treat all the officials of Saul’s court with dignity. This move was very uncommon, because the custom was execution of all previous appointees and officials. (This is similar of what George Washington did with POW and other British soldiers he… Continue reading We can’t help it: We believe what we hear