4 reasons why I’m a conservative

For man, the universe is already defaulted to pull back. Destruction is an easy and natural thing. Creation requires energy, intelligence, and even bravery. However, if one looks further, the universe actually operates beautifully in order.

Where I come from, you weren’t supposed to be a conservative. Everyone around me supported the welfare state- even those in the workforce. It didn’t matter if one was in corporate, a college graduate to a high school drop out, religious or secular- they all agreed on one thing: how to vote. By using your heart (although many were heartless) and vote for the Democrat Party.

As a child, the elderly would call me: disrespectful. Outspoken. Rebellious. But to this day, I never disrespect the elderly. So why was I called these things? Simply because I think.


Once when I was young, I went with my mother to go vote. I asked, “Which one are we? Democrat or Republican?”

She answered, “We are Democrats.”

“Okay. Why?” I asked.

“Because we aren’t rich.”

Discontent with that answer, I replied: “Well, then. I want to be rich, so I’ll be a Republican.”

Immediately she stopped walking and we looked at each other. The look on her face resembled of a CNN anchor. This must be the ‘disrespectful speech’ everone says I give.

Many of these examples I have. In my youth, I tended to crash with most people due to the difference in worldviews. I believe man is born evil but can strive to become great- if he chooses. (Not a common view.) Many believe he is born good with society corrupting him and could never become the noble savage again. (Sad!)

As a young child, I always knew what I wanted in life. I always had a sense of what is good and what is evil. Most things taught to me (at home, school, and church) always seem to contradict. Is life this confusing? Furthermore, I noticed those who claim to be intellectuals were saying the same exact thing as an illiterate street bum. The self-proclaimed intellects differ with wording it more eloquently and offering a reason for their behavior.

Once understood that I actually grew up under these socialist policies and people- I needed to hear the other side.

The obstacle one takes when wanting just to hear the other side is a big step. But what required next is bravery: to leave the socialist state, its false promises and subjects for something which offered no security, uncertainty, unpredictable but full freedom.


There were two types of women from where I come from: the job-driven woman and the welfare woman. Both in common they had were miserable lives. There has to be a third option.

Yes! The woman I read about in books and witness from afar. The one the Bible speaks about. The woman who becomes a wife and stays home with her children. She has a husband, home, privacy and labor seemed to be 1000% less. More beautiful, free and safe. It’s even romantic: just her and her husband.

All this I gathered on my own. It still amazes me that a young girl from Spanish Harlem can actually break the chains of statistics, overcome the sweet whispers of a false ‘independent woman’ status and the seduction of marriage to the state- without any support other than my faith in God, my husband, and my mind.

This is what motivated me personally. I wanted to be a wife and mother. I also wanted the ability to earn as much or little as I please. After I figured that out, everything else made sense- without the contradictions. I had to start a new life. I had to leave the socialism I was born into.

*Understand the term conservative. I do not wish to conserve the state but to conserve the idea of what made the American great and the Bill of Rights.


Here are the 4 reasons why I’m a conservative:

1. Profit is a good thing

When I heard cheers from my environment, celebrating being “broke” and “poor” I knew it didn’t sound right. Are you poor in nutrition? Low in protein? Then you might be poor. But it is the animal who is forever poor. Humans, particularity Americans, can change their situation. Never say you’re poor.

People should work- especially men. Being rewarded with cash for your services and/or goods is proof that someone needs you. It’s proof that you are not just helping yourself, but you’re helping others. You are seen. You are heard.

Work also provides communication skills, growth, patience, practice, time management, self-control, financial freedom and self-respect among many other things.

The alternative to earning money is a gun: theft and death. I’m strongly against the utopian lie of living a life in the paradise of no work. It sounds like hell. Even within the Garden of Eden did God put Adam to work! Man must have meaning in his life. He can find that through his work. The higher the quality and his performance, the higher his bank account.

This should be celebrated by allowing him the fruits of his labor. You simply cannot take what belongs to the man who has earned, transfer his wealth to the man who has not earned while expecting the same results of the honest earner. How could you subsidize irresponsibility by punishing the responsible? This is not only killing work ethics on both parts and society, but it is insulting to a person’s self-worth.

Allow and encourage greatness.

Which brings me to my next point.

2. Freedom of Speech

Freedom of expression. Religious freedoms. Freedom of thought. Freedom to own property- that includes weapons.

How can we grow as productive human beings when our minds aren’t allowed to think? Is it no wonder why the West won World War 2?

It wasn’t because Americans are brilliant and Germans are slow to pick up in science to create the A-bomb. It is because our economy is free and allows innovation to take place- without approval from a dictatorship. (Although FDR had many dictatorship traits and policies- still less than the enemy.) The speed to build up with the best quality only happened because America has the freedom to do so.

Hitler at one point didn’t even want to discuss the possibility of A-bomb because “it was a Jewish weapon.” This primitive socialist racism actually hurt him in the war. While in a free market system- there is no time for such rubbish. If you can produce, America needs you.

In order for this idea called ‘free market’ to be fully exercised to its potential, freedom of speech must be encouraged. Before an exchange of goods can happen, an exchange of ideas must occur.

In a socialist society, these ideas can interrupt those in power. It can even be twisted into ‘treason.’ Therefore, any progress in medicine, technology and business is slow to none.

3. Pro-family

Would the world be better off with more single people or married people? Orphans or children with married parents? “Finding yourself” for many decades or committing yourself to one person and building?

Family is something that puts requirements, restrains you from acting improperly and making terrible, hurtful decisions. All without government intervention.

The family prepares you for business if you think about it: your parents are the boss with authority, love, and respect. Your siblings are co-workers. Your grandparents sit on the Board of Directors or better yet, the Worker’s Union due to always siding with you. (But secerctly sides with your parents.) Cousins are customers when they come over. The family unit really resembles a business.

Children without a family, grow into broken adults. This is why the state needs to rid of the family in order to rescue the broken masses.

If people come from strong homes, with mother and father married- this can threaten the state’s power. The control of centralized power within the state rests on problems. If the citizens are making terrible choices (all stemming from their childhood) then the state needs to gain control. Since there is no such thing as an individual in a socialist state, (only a community), the community will all suffer the iron fist and submit to daddy government to reestablish order.

Remember: although the goal is a pretend utopia, there still must be an order of conduct to obtain it. The state is more than willing to step in. If the citizens give up their rights peacefully, even better. To help expedite this “compassion” children belong to the state.

Truth is be told: it takes parents, not a village, to raise a child.

4. I don’t like being told what to do

Similar to freedom of thought, I don’t like being told what to do or what to think. Socialism requires you to sacrifice everything for “the greater good.” Your wealth, heart, mind, and soul.

There is no greater good! Well, if you believe man is born good and just got evil along the way, then yes. You might want to help him achieve his original state. This is why socialism constantly needs to “renew” and “refresh.” It needs a revolution every 50-70 years. It needs obedience to create this “New Soviet Man.”

While I respect my God, parents, spouse, army and country- I will not be told to bow. There are many ways throughout history to bow down against your freewill. Some is through actual bowing. Others are in form of taxation and supporting ideas you oppose.

This goes against the Bill of Rights. The American.


Living as a puppet is no life. Living within unnecessary limits for the sake of “security” is not life. Life is brief. Life should be of worth and meaningful. Life is already hard, but much harder when you’re denied the right to actually live.

There are many reasons why I’m a conservative: religion, patriotism, responsibility, profit, family, and freedom. Overall, I need to work. My work is at home.

Understand the best rewards in life are the ones that are met with the most struggle to obtain it. Accomplishment is best only when greeted with a challenge.

Please, don’t hand anything to me. Don’t take away my ability to think and earn. I’m a conservative and want to experience life.

Be selfish for you can be generous

No man will work for your interest unless they are his

David Seabury

The quote above tells how the entire world works. However, America has executed this truth in a unique way. Which its result caused an abundance of wealth, leadership and security.


Being selfish has always been seen as a negative thing.

In the East, it’s every man for his own. You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours… maybe.

Unless you are someone who appears to have wealth, a tourist (or if you’re dealing with a seriously religious person)- the world is not a fan of generosity. They must think of themselves and then close relatives in order to survive.

The West, particularly America, on the other hand, has a different motto which separates itself from the rest of the world.

Whether in a large scale such as America getting involved in foreign wars: a selfish motive unless it’s a direct attack or to prevent one, for the citizens of the United States.

How about on a smaller scale such as the individual: one investing on his own needs before doing favors for others- also may seem selfish.

The way America has handled foreign policy to a personal citizen’s choice, has overall been a step to the right direction.


America conducts itself differently

To be prepared for war is one of the most effectual means to preserving peace

George Washington Jan. 8th 1790 First annual message to congress

The 5 Star general military expert and America’s first president was aware that if potential enemies know that America is ready for war, with weapons and training, then enemies will not even flirt with the idea to commit aggression against the United States.

This thinking from our nation’s beloved first president still holds truth today. Washington is not only talking about a wellformed army (which many countries already have) but its citizens also to be armed and disciplined.

Another popular idea of many countries is foreign involvement. Mostly for real estate, power and control reasons. America is different from this policy as well. Washington tells America to avoid being dragged into overseas conflict:

It is our true policy to steer clear of permanent alliance with any portion of the foreign world…. are essentially foreign to our concerns…. America’s detached and distant situation… [should be an easier avoidant into warfare.]

George Washington

Washington made it clear if a nation which “indulges towards another a habitual hatred or a habitual fondness is in some degree a slave’– it gets distracted and suspends its only duty of pursuing its own true interest.

Two easy ways the American can avoid meddling into foreign affairs: our values are different. Our geographical location, separated from the world by two large oceans also represents something deeper. It brings us back to our first point of having different ideas of a nation.

Although the wisdom of Washington cannot be stressed more, Americans have recently abandoned their leader’s advice and joined the activities of the world. After WW2, the NATO agreement offered very little for the American but gave much American money and man power for Europe.

America is able to do good while being the first to respond to tragedies; both domestically and internationally because America focused on itself for many years. America also set the bar high for human achievement and became a world influence by setting an upright example in practice that the world wishes to mimic.


Should the individual be selfish to eventually become generous?

Well, how else can one offer something if he doesn’t have the means to offer?

Just because someone is willing to do something doesn’t mean much if he isn’t ready to provide it.

Similar to Washington’s advice to prepare for warfare- even if you’re not going to war, one must be ready to back up the talk to avoid the fight. Now, how can he prepare himself if he has no weapons? No training? No right to bare arms?

At an early stage of the nation or individual, these values must be taught. It is also better to learn skills and have training young in order to make life much more easier for the long run.

If your noble goal is to serve your community (and profit comes second or none)- God bless you for your rare motive! This too was the pilgrims’ desire: to create God’s kingdom on earth. Gold came second or not even important. However, the pilgrims still had to offer something uniquely different from the world. Their knowledge of scriptures and carrying it out daily, took a massive commitment to lifetime training and dedication.

If the goal was to, for example, teach reading for people can read the Bible, (many people all over the world were illiterate)- then first the teacher needed to know how to read for himself. At one point in his life, this teacher spent hours learning how to read, and then to understand the Bible. Only after this is he able to teach others.

People will listen to those who understand and practices his work- not to someone who speaks like a blabbering pagan.

Suppose your main goal is profit. Honestly, profit is the best goal. While I agree with the pilgrims’ religious teachings, I would certainly disagree with the Marxist teachings. Had a Marxist came off the Mayflower, free or pay- I am not interested in a Marxist utopian idea. You might not be interested in the Bible. But money is the proof of hard work and free exchange for all ideas. This is where a Marxist and religious person can shake hands in a transaction.

In order to do so, one party must have previously invested his time to create and develop his service or product. It might have seemed selfish when he started his mission, but the community eventually benefited through his sacrifice of immediate pleasure for a long term goal of uncertain wealth.

On the flip side, the consumer must have earned his wealth elsewhere in order to purchase the innovator’s product. The consumer himself is an investor: both in the product and how he obtains his wealth to even make this transaction.

Another motivation is love.

Have you seen anyone more selfish than a 15-year-old boy? Everything is certainly about him. But introduce a beautiful girl, now the young boy has the interest to suddenly become a highly skilled electrician to purchase this girl the best flowers he can.

No matter for the greater good, profit or love- one must develop himself in order to be generous. This requires disciple, structure, sacrifice, practice, training and even isolation in order to achieve greatness.


The time when the act of selfishness must be suspended

Is there a time or situation when being selfish must be avoided?

Yes.

In relationships: Marriage. As individuals with parents. As parents with children. There is no room for your selfish ways at this moment.

One thing I’ve notice reading Ayn Rand books is that there are no children in them. Also translating to, no future.

There must be a future. A purpose in order to have a meaningful life.

When you’re in a relationship, its a two way street. You might not want to visit grandma and watch watch her play crossword puzzles with an old neighbor named Sally. But as her grandchild, you know you’re obligated to do so every Sunday afternoon.

Although it’s only one day of the week she sees you, you’re the reason why she gets out of bed each day. She looks forward to your Sunday visits starting when you leave Sunday evening. Even if they are spent in silence, your presence alone shows you care.

After you leave your weekly visit, you have a sense of worth. You not only committed to family but you begin to think: I won’t be alone either when I’m her age.

This works the opposite: be generous (with your time, something that requires zero training). You’ll experience by doing so, you’re actually gaining self-control. Honoring your word. Patience. Human interaction. So much more virtues that you can take with you into the workforce and in romace.

You’ll eventually have the same treatment in return. Even if there is nothing to gain other than your smile. Remember, like money, people are attracted to good energy. Something you have unknowligly developed through your Sunday visits with grandma.

The same works with gift giving. This has been practiced in every culture for thousands of years.

You’re giving not because the Bible says so, your parents or even society told you too. You’re giving because you want too. Again, invest in yourself for you can experience this joy at anytime.

What is the hidden exchange with gift giving?

First, the person you’re giving too must accept your gift. Their smile, joy, and suspense are worth the giving. This brings a sensation to you of accomplishment.

You were not only thanked, but for a moment you were seen. Heard. Even within love, there is a trade-off.

The trade off is not material, but more of a spiritual one.

This is one, which is love, is the best deal made.

Enjoy marriage: How to get your husband to do anything

Yes, I have discovered the answer to one of life’s greatest secret treasures: how to get your husband to do what you want.

Please.

Hold the applause until the end.

Reading up on Men’s magazines, their books and eavesdropping in on their podcast- I learned a bit more about our furry partners called men. Apparently, the fur is designed to protect men from facing nature’s danger… and it’s also used as a defensive mechanism against other creatures- including women!

But it wasn’t until many years of marriage and having a son did I finally get to tap in (from a far distance because I still lack understanding of the male species) on the man’s brain.

Is there a way to get across to our husbands, peacefully while achieving a win/win outcome?

Oh, you better believe it!

Ladies.
No more nagging.
No more complaining.
No more explaining.
No more silent treatment.

No more “constructive criticism.” – (They really dislike this one. More on this later.)
Note to men: Please let me know if I’m correct, almost or not even close.

Time to sit back and enjoy marriage like it’s designed for.


It’s clear we love our husbands. However, society insists people are “born this way.” As some fool once said, “If you love someone, you wouldn’t change them.”

Give me a break.

Life is about change and growth. We aren’t animals in a vicious cycle, are we? No. We have a purpose. A constant yearning to strive. A challenge. A goal with structure and deadlines. Accomplishment in the face of struggle makes us alive.

Therefore, of course, we want our husband to grow. We want him with more money. More time with us and the children. More help around the house. More in touch with God. (And with more muscle…) When we bring this up, it comes off to him as “complaints and nagging” to his ears.

Bottom line he isn’t listening via talk or email. You’re not getting through to him.

Next, you seriously sit down and have a conversation with him. You politely explain to him that you love him. This is only constructive criticism which is intended to help both of us- our marriage, you rationalize.

Yikes. That did it.

Translation to a man’s brain: I’m not man enough?! Nothing is ever good for you. You’re comparing me to other men. I lack ambition? I work my butt off for this family! 

Sounds familiar?

Well. May I suggest another route? Honestly.

What else do you have to lose?

These 4 methods have been proven in my personal life. I’ve also seen it done within marriages of over 15+ years. Each method goes accordingly to different circumstances. Be wise about your approach. Be honest as well. The arguments will lessen. The stress is less. Both parties will get what they want- and yes. The love and romance will skyrocket.


Absence makes the heart fonder

Time apart does wonders. Ask any corporate and/or military wife. Being apart from one another makes us want each other more. Including doing acts for the other spouse. Promises you now make while apart, to which you do intend to keep because that is how much you miss each other! You’ll be amazed at the level of flirtation, text messages and romance received through distance. Once united: it will feel so good!

Always see each other? Well, buzz off somewhere for a few hours! Tell him to visit his parents. Or encourage him to get a testosterone boost by hanging out with his buddies. (Men need male bonding more than women need “girl time.” More on that within a different post.) Go out shopping without him but take his credit card. (You see, he is still there.. via MasterCard.) Just take some time apart where you can actually recharge and miss each other.

Eye contact

Sometimes words don’t need to be spoken. A look of seduction. Or a look in need will get the job done.

Don’t be confused with the silent treatment, which can go on for days and turn ugly. This eye contact is a one time use, and use it for a brief interaction.

Suppose he is being difficult. Just stop the conversation by looking at him. Smile halfway. Then let him proceed. The moment of silence (with a Mona Lisa smile) will make him rethink his position. This one works extremely well for me, personally and requires little from my end.

How are you dressed?

This is my favorite because I’m a master at this.

Men are visual creatures. Although men don’t care if you are wearing a $2,000 dress or a $20 dress- they want you to look good. (This grooming helps our mood if we do. This is also a win/win.) Yes, your husband “loves you for who you are.” Also, I’m aware you “love your husband through hard times.” But why place yourself there when it’s unnecessary?

Men: don’t assume your wife will be tolerant for long if you’re unemployed for too long. Women: don’t expect your husband to still lust after you when you haven’t waxed your eyebrows in 2 years and he only sees you in a grandmother’s nightgown.

Men want their women so attractive, they will even provide the funding. Give it a try.

Next time he comes home, make sure you’re wearing a dress with heels and have your hair done. Bonus if you have food ready for him.

His mood will be lifted. Make this a lifestyle because doing it once- it gets pretty suspicious and may come across artificial. Men love a natural feminine woman. They strongly dislike a woman they have to compete with. Be his companion. His helper. He is already fighting against the world. He already loves you. (A man doesn’t marry for security, wealth or status purposes. They do so for love.) This type of effort from your part will urge him to move mountains for you.

You wouldn’t believe what I got my husband to do just by dressing up in a red dress, red lipstick, heels and having his dinner ready for him before he came home.

The man suddenly became a highly skilled carpenter. (Among other things!) Besides. I do enjoy how my legs look in this outfit…

Now. For The Secret Weapon: OTHER MEN!

Here it is. Try using “logic” to get your husband to make a move. Try crying. Try sex even. It won’t work!

Do you know men turn off a woman’s speech just after the first 6 minutes? That’s why you’re repeating yourself and reassuring he is listening. (He is not.) But men can honestly hear another man speak (with the same message!) for hours! Outrageous, I’ll say.

If you want your husband, for example, to exercise more- he has to hear the message from his friends. There is no other choice. This is the secret weapon right here: It has to come from other men he respects.

The idea also has to come from him when you both sit down and talk about it. Men have a strong desire to be needed. Their brains. Their muscle. Their love must be needed. They want to be able to provide and protect. They need to deliver results. They have a deep longing to be needed.., especially by a woman! ONE woman.

While women, (who don’t want that burden of being needed) desire to be wanted. You do want your husband to want you? To cater to you? To know what you want? Well then. Allow him to figure things out. To take charge. Let him know you need him.

If your husband discusses growth with another man, he will come home to you excited like a young boy who just received a Ninja Turtle toy: “Honey, guess what? A great idea!” (An idea that you secretly wanted him to jump on for a while.)

Think back to any bright ideas you may have had. Sure, he might have agreed to do them. Only to deliver with a sloppy job with a half heart in it- hoping it will fail. He is eager to say to you: You see. I told you so!

But if it came from him, he cannot retreat to this conduct. He must follow through. It is best sealed when it came from speaking or even watching other men.

After the task is complete, he will be a new man. A better one. A stronger one. He will also know he couldn’t have accomplished it without you.

Therefore, both parties will get what their hearts truly desires. However, in order to do this- one must use their head.

Now go ahead and have your husband build that bookcase you’ve been wanting him to do.

Don’t forget to put on lipstick!

I’ll saddle my own donkey: the reason why RINO’s don’t support President Trump


The 5 type of Americans towards President Trump:


Useful idiots: I always knew people, in general, are followers. Have a strong desire to be accepted and liked. Most people read the headlines and not the article itself. They heard of past events but don’t know history itself. Listen to the D.J. on the radio rather than hearing directly from the person the D.J. is falsely speaking about. In life, people want to generally inhert rewards without the struggle. Body without diet. Wedding but neglect the marriage contract. In short, most people are lazy, uninformed and want to be liked. These types are the easiest to trick. If the trend is patriotism, they will follow. If the trend is fascism, they will march.

Self-proclaimed intellectuals: Behind the scenes stirring the pot, you have the group who viciously hates President Trump’s ideas, what he represents and the type of people he represents. It could’ve been any outspoken freedom lover, these snobbish cowards will always hate and provide the funding for the hate.

The Base: These Americans are the core of highbrow hate. The Base prevents their utopia. President Trump’s loyal supporters who (like him) dislike being told what to do. These people are the least likely to be persuaded to surrender their values for instant pleasure, a false sense of security or even to be liked for the moment. As we learned earlier, being “liked” is only for a season.

Hate and love relationship: Hello Ben Shapiro. Glenn Beck. And others who made an incorrect assessment of the Billionaire due to his language rather than what he actually accomplished in life. These Americans rather someone with a much cleaner lifestyle. Both professionally and in private. While that is an honorable standard, it’s also disconnected with our times. After having Obama in the W.H.- we as Americans desired someone who is not only politically incorrect but not even polite and very patriotic above all. Although they misread their prophecy of Trump, these individuals came around and eventually supported the President. (Throw Ann Coulter in there as well. Hopefully, after Ann gets a man, she’ll become rational again.)

RINO’s on Donkeys: But how about the informed, considered “patriots” who never have and never will, support Trump? This group is very interesting. They are my main focus within this post.


The Bush family spent their entire lives fighting against liberal policies. This family loves America. Some might argue they made poor choices, benefited personally at the cost of the American and were involved in really corrupt dealings that were dangerous to our mere existence as a Republic.

For the sake of time, let’s just play devil’s advocate and call them “patriots.” This is said with a lower case “p” – since it was the Patriots, not social justice warriors, who put them into office.

Before Barbara Bush passed away, she written a letter to each member in her family asking them not to vote for Donald Trump. This would be the first time the Bush family didn’t support a Republican nominee. Why?

Why would you tell your children and grandchildren not to support the Republican nominee? Instead, for them to suspend their values and vote for Crooked H? Why will you make that dangerous gamble that will not just hurt your country, but your family directly?

Were she upset over Trump bullying her baby son? As a mother who absolutely loves her baby boy, I totally get it. My judgment will be clouded with Mama Bear Rage and I wouldn’t like him either. However, after the steamed cooled down (and perhaps I personally held a grudge Forever!) wouldn’t ANYONE in my direct reach, reason with the idea: Trump is the best option?

Well. Clearly there is more reason behind a mother’s protection over her son. If the entire Bush family agreed to this, there is more behind it.

One thing I easily observe is the fact that when outsider Trump gets elected, these people will not be needed. All the RINOs (Republican In Name Only) in America will become irrelevant. Their advice won’t be taken. President Trump would (and has) made these people feel useless. The worst feeling ever.

The bullying. The feeling of not being needed. Is that all it took for you to surrender your core belief system?

The Bible teaches us about this odd behavior.

We turn to Abraham.


“And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.”

Genesis 22:2 KJV

Abraham had another son already, Ishmael. Why did the Lord say and empathized- thine only son Isaac? It’s because Abraham is married to Isaac’s mother.

In Hebrew, the term only son means yachid. If translated directly, it means “darling” when referring to life itself, so valuable. Even meaning “desolate”- emphasizing the fact that people can feel utterly alone at times.

“And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and saddled his ass, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son…”

Genesis 22:3 KJV

Now, remember. Abraham is a wealthy man. Also very old. Why did he saddle his own donkey? Why did he labor? He had young men available to do it. Yet he chose to do it himself…..

Now we quickly turn to a wicked man named Balaam, who is also wealthy but has different desires: killing the children of Israel.

“And Balaam rose up in the morning, and saddled his ass, and went with the princes of Moab.”


Numbers 22:21 KJV

Both men are wealthy, yet they both did their own labor. Each had different attitudes towards this. Abraham, did his duty but dreaded it. Balaam did his duty, with great pleasure.

What the scriptures show is: love and hate distort a man’s thinking. Strong emotion overrides rational thinking. Abraham’s love for the Lord made him obey his (difficult) order. Balaam’s hatred urged him to wake up early and get to work himself.


Having logic and reason, it makes sense to support the current president- Donald Trump. It’s in your interest! But with personal hatred? It messes with your thinking. RINOs are not the only ones who are guilty of this.

No good can come from making an important decision when emotions are high.

Activity: try to think about a time where you made an important life-changing decision based on emotions. Intentions. Your heart. Write about it. How did it turn out in the long run? What can you do to repair and avoid repeating?

Green-eyed monster? Here are 4 truths on why you shouldn’t be!

Look at them.

They look so gorgeous. In love. And wealthy. As for you, you’re… well, you’re you. How could you not be slightly envious? Or more difficult, how can you be happy for someone else success when you secretly aren’t because it’s a reminder that you yourself is a failure?

You’re only a failure because you think and speak it. When a person is envious it just means they settled in life. They compromised. They didn’t keep on working (for whatever excuse one might have). In the end, they gave up and regret it.

No need to spend your life in this manner.

I’ve read many books of people restarting their life and successfully moving on to accomplishment. One story I will never forget is about a 52-year-old military history writer. He loved warfare: the strategies, uniforms, discipline, rules of engagement, and weapons. Such a brilliant and passionate man, but he had one problem:

No one actually listened to him because he never served in the military. On top of that, he found himself growing intensely envious of the glory the war leaders received from the troops. The power. The action. The respect. The love from his army. ARGH!

This writer did something incredible to put in an end to this negative emotion, at the age of 55 years old he enlisted into the army. He rose through the ranks rapidly. He became a celebrated hero in his country. Futhermore, he became ruler of his country. Action, not paper- with this he finally gains his life dream and respect which he earned.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”

― Henry Ford

There is always a hunger for great talent and skills in the marketplace. Especially in a forgiving home as America or within a religion like Christianity. While there are truths that both the Bible and our personal experience can confirm, some life decisions we made a while ago have very long consequences. Some may range for a few weeks. Others can be a punishment that can last years or even cost us our own life. (This is why one must be both book and street smart.)

Nevertheless, we will work with what is unfairly dealt to us in life or what foolish decisions we brought to ourselves. We are here to live. To fulfill, even what might seem like a minor goal such as obtaining your driver’s license. It’s your life. The desire is still lurking because the envy, the longing is there. It’s not over unless you say it is.


Here are 4 truths on why there is no need to envy:

4. True fulfillment and joy in life doesn’t need an explanation

I see this mistake in so many people I speak with. You’ve probably heard (or have said) similar things such as:

“I’m glad I didn’t enlist in the army! Heck, I’m not fighting a bankers war! I’m no sucker! I’m completely happy they didn’t get me!” But if you further the conservation with this type, as I do, they will quickly expose their regret. I say, “But you’re a patriot bro! My goodness, the honor. The respect. The skills they teach. Travel and guns! Plus you get paid? That sounds like a sweet deal, not a scam.”

The look of guilt flushes their face, then the sad confession kicks in: “But I missed my opportunity…”

Another infamous one I hear is from childless people. “Kids? Ha! I’m extremely happy without brats! They’re expensive. They are an inconvenience! They’re annoying. I’m completely living it up.”

Then, like the dodger, I get this people as well.

“I can’t believe that. You would’ve made an excellent father! Oh man, not to mention how gorgeous your children would’ve been. Sad you’re keeping your seed to yourself, the world is missing out! Plus, they come in handy for retirement buddy! Well, I know you’re a great uncle, so I cannot accept your discontent in children. Come over for Thanksgiving to my house.”

The look on their face is priceless. Truth for this is, mostly this person hasn’t “found” a committed person to marry and trust. Or they are completely focused with their career (this is for women), missing out an opportunity to become a parent.

If an indvidual is truly content with their choices in life, there is no need to randomly explain yourself. Certainly no need to put down the other people who decided to enlist in the army or have a family.

From what I hear, it gets cold when you’re older. You need your memories (like the army stories or whatever you passed up) and grandchildren to warm you.

Reconfirming to others that you didn’t need these investments, doesn’t confirm it and you’re only speaking to yourself. In fact, this unneeded explanation has the opposite effect: it shows you want it and regretting you didn’t commit to it.

People like this aren’t as thrilled with their life as they say. No need to envy the explainer AKA the complainer.

3. Fake news is also attention seeking news: grass isn’t always greener on the other side

Long before social media envy of strangers, there was a more face to face envy. Hence the saying “the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.” (Showing human nature hasn’t changed.) It is still common to be envious over a family member you see often, a neighbor or a co-worker. THIS short article shows that money doesn’t buy happiness. It must come from within.

When people broadcast their happy life, understand two things first:

  • They are only showing the happiest moments in their life. Even if it seems to be everyday ‘happiness’, people are public performers. Read their shallow captions for further detail.
  • True happiness doesn’t have time to document it live. Therefore, they aren’t enjoying the moment. Do photographers have a blast at a wedding? They are too busy working. Selfie takers are also working and ignoring what could be a fun time. Their mind is on a perfect pic, edit, upload and sit back to see the likes.

Don’t get me wrong. I will snap a photo of the Grand Canyon while I’m on a visit. Will be hesitant to share my glory on social media. But for sure, I won’t make a documentary on my trip to the Grand Canyon unless I’m working for the History Channel. I want to enjoy the time, let the memory sit while respecting my company.

If you notice there is someone who is constantly seeking online attention with their ‘amazing’ life- then simply unfollow. What a great relief it brings. If this person doesn’t offer anything but an online diary that you cannot gain from, they serve no purpose.

Many people fool themselves into saying, “I’m inspiring the world! Come join my pointless journey of finding myself (which I never do) and be inspired!”

Inspiration comes from the struggling silent. No need to envy this empty goof.

[Bringing back my celebrity couple who appear to have it all: looks, money, and love. Traveling to Switzerland while I’m stuck at work, raising kids and letting the best years of my life fly by. Or am I? Don’t read too much into it. What I have noticed with these flashy people is something radical occurs in most of their lives: when they reach to their 40s, their looks are non-human. They are divorced. Broke. And having interviews about how unhappy they were in that marriage- conflicting their wonderful fun pictures of the past.

By the time I’m in my 40s, all my children are adults. In fact, one will graduate college and I will still be in my 30s! So prepare the Eastern European skies. When my time of child raising is over, I’ll be sexy in Switzerland drinking a cup of hot chocolate with my family!]

2. You can still achieve in life at anything you set your mind to

What a controversy statement to make nowadays!

It’s because it’s true. Lies seem to be accepted as “your truth” rather than the one and only truth.

While you don’t need to follow the clueless people who go through life with drama and no purpose- you can gain inspiration from the humble earner results. How can you find these types?

If you desire to have a family, go read about those who have long marriages and successful children. What’s their “secret?” Don’t follow a “family” like the Kardashians.

If you decide more wealth, follow the quiet self-made earner. Not only will you learn more about money, but you’ll learn about character. They are eager to teach those who want to learn and practice their ways.

Focus on yourself and get to work. After you found your humble mentor for encouragement and reminders: it can be done. They did it, so can you. They are not super-human. It is available to all. I don’t care about the ‘white privilege’ lie. Many whites struggle, suffer and die a failure. Just like anyone else who made bad choices. (Telling young white straight boys, in particular, is a psychological trick to actually create a sense of supreme from doing nothing which hinders their growth while telling other groups ‘you don’t have a chance.’ Bad all around.) The only advantage is being born rich and having married parents.

So, if you don’t have this real type of advantage, get busy. Lay out a plan and with deadlines. Get organized and find ways to achieve each point. It may seem far away- but that is why it’s called an investment. Short-time easy goals (like buying an expensive burger) excitement quickly comes to a halt when you realize you need bus fare. Don’t focus at how far the last chapter is yet. You already know there is 35, just start with the first. (They say it takes 7-10 years to master a skill. Get going!)

Pretty soon with your sacrifice, you will realize how fast time has gone by. Your goal will be achieved with your back against the wall fighting each step. It is earned slowly and less likely to die off quickly. Similar to earning your own money rather than being given money for no reason.

The great feeling of a smart sacrifice pays off at the end.

Life is about sacrifice.

Choose wisely.

Side note: A few years back, I created a vision poster board which I encourage you to do. On it I had cut and paste images from magazines onto this board. Images of things I wanted. Some were simple. Others were more difficult to obtain. And one needed a miracle. Here what was on the board:

A slow cooker. A ninja blender. A fancy washer and dryer- yes the ones that cost thousands of US dollars. A bodybuilder’s body. Travel around America on a road trip. A BMW. A house on the mountains like you see in a car commercial. A happy family with a husband and four children. Two girls and two boys.

The miracle (somewhat out of my control) is the family one. Would you believe I’m on track for that one? The Lord blesses me! At the time I was legally married with two daughters. My son came and I would like another son someday. The house in snowy North Dakota will be achieved if I want. All others have been fulfilled. I cried when I located this poster board recently.

  1. Your goals and aspirations are between you and God- through Him all things are possible 

As difficult as it may be, shut off the noise. Shut off the distractions. If it doesn’t aim towards your goal should you allow any of your energy to have it? Get rid of self-doubt. The negative scene, people or potatoe chips. Re-set your mindset.

Who will stop you if the Lord is with you? When David from the Bible kept on having incredible success on the battlefield, King Saul asked: “How?”

“The Lord is with me.” He answered.

The Lord will be with you too. If you allow Him. He hasn’t abandoned you. He desires greatness from you- and expects it. There is no need to stress or be envious with what you do not have. As long as you use honest methods. Start building, remain consistent, learn, grow and focused, you will get what your heart desires.

Advice: keep it to yourself. You’re only an inspiration after you achieve. Some might suggest to let the world know of your goals because you’re most likely to follow through. Well, how has that worked out for the online braggers? Instead, share with a few loved ones who are close to you. They will be watching. Even they are skeptical and still need to see results so you will have to follow through with that personal audience watching.

I depart with these two verses:

Psalm 37:4 4Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
Psalm 20:4 4May he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.

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The unspoken girl power

Beware of false knowledge; it is more dangerous than ignorance.

-George Bernard Shaw

Seeing an ad promoting what my mind rejects always intrigues me.

Intrigued in a sense where I don’t doubt myself, instead I ask myself: who would believe this nonsense?

But as it turns out- many people do buy into the unreal.

Going to college for advertising drew my attention to identify the trickery methods used. For example: The colors red and yellow trigger hunger strikes to the brain. This is why it is used for mostly all fast food advertising- even laced into their logos.

Advertisement works (why else will a company invest millions into it?) for commercial purposes. Advertising also works to influence society. The goal is to sell you something. A product. A service. An ideology.

One of the most common themes of society’s slogans goes as follows: “Girls run the world.” “Girl power.” “The future is female.”

Amazingly enough, society’s messages are great with telling half-truths. Just like all advertisement. What’s interesting about this agenda (girl power) is the reason why society is truly promoting this. There are many spectulations but I tend to agree with this one: to weaken the West/world to set forward for an easy worldwide tyranny.

We all experieced the painful inconvenient to life, One Million Women’s March. Now could you imagine a One Million Men’s March? That is war.

This post will not focus on the possbile motivation to this movement, but rather to zoom in on why women don’t need to submit to this ideology to “feel” empowered. She has already been empowered- without a women’s movement or organization.

Let’s keep one basic principle in mind: if one has to boast (or raise “awareness”) it probably isn’t all that great to begin with. The idea or the product can sell for itself. Think back at your Apple store. How many advertisements have you seen of their products? A few, but not many. When you walk by an Apple store, it’s always busy. The store operates as a showroom. The product sells itself. The consumer knows what he/she wants.


 

The fable of the girl power. The Making of the New Woman: She sleeps with whoever she likes- without the development of feelings, guilt or risk of STDs. She has access to abortions paid by men while claiming her independence. This New Woman marches troops into Moscow during winter without training and easily capturing the city.  She plays a sport with just as much or more endurance of a man. She is able to fight off a large man without any formal training or weapon at hand. The New Woman, almost godlike, receives high-quality wisdom through little to no life experience. Lastly, while she is competeing against men she continues to assault other women and ignores the sufferings of real victims to only focus on her life decisions (always made correctly) and pleasures.

Is this New Woman even human at this point?

This is not a productive, healthy nor realistic view and it actually hurts women in the long run. Causing a stunt to growth of human innovation and relations. It hurts men and children if women have this odd mindset. Instead of seeking an artificial power, women should elevate their given talents and gifts to the highest point.

One easy advantage women have is getting a man to do what she wants.

Yes, it’s really that simple but such a powerful tool when used correctly. The best part is that there is no need to “trick” or mislead a man. There is a common understanding with this, moreover- he welcomes it!

Women shouldn’t waste an entire lifetime playing games that conflict with our natural desires and abilities. While some desires are not helpful to becoming a better person, other desires are.

Most women enjoy being with their family and community. Women enjoy people while men typically enjoy things. Women enjoy shopping and looking beautiful. They enjoy being wanted by a man. The real power is to embrace this with little effort making your life more easier and the less use of muscle labor.  If given the option, women should embrace this to help ease the burdens of a painful life.

 


 

Take a look throughout the historical figures we analyze. The bravery of those men was only enhanced and executed because of the women in their life. Noah finished building his arc because of the wife he had. The Bible speaks little of her, but we can assume she was a good wife because Noah finished the job God told him to do.  The job requires muscle pull, but work is very stressful and Noah needed a mental support system as well.

When men go to war to protect their homeland, do you know what is the top priority? Is it to preserve the lovely skyscrapers and bridges? Yes that is part of it, for surely the enemy will reduce the structures into ashes. But the top concern is to protect their women and children who are indeed the foundation of these structures. Women and children will be the most immediate gift to the enemy if they achieve their goal of conquering, not the real estate or resources which takes longer to see the benefits.  (I read a lot of war books.)

Note: take a look at the poorest countries in the world. Then examine the relationship between men and women there. A country’s wealth is determined by the way the women and children are treated. If the men take responsibility or not. If the men abuse the power or not. If the men are present or not.

When women are man’s weakness, all is good for the woman for she has an advantage.

Recently women have subconsciously rejected this gift and subscribed to the notion of “independence”. Only to ask herself why no man loves her? But she rejected love in the pursuit of (at many times unnecessary) labor.

I’ve understood this unspoken power since my father. One look and he gave me anything I wanted. Then as I got older, I applied that logic to the young boys at my school. Let’s just say, Valentine’s Day was never a dull holiday! Moving into the workforce, I would hardly call it work. My experience at all my jobs went well because of the (men) management above me. Who needed a worker’s union when you have a beautiful smile? That was my job security because it certainly wasn’t a worker’s union or my work ethic.

My success is never credited to a woman’s organization.

My success is credited to God, my parents, family and the use of my human mind. (Smiling helped. Bigly.)


Options

To be a professional or not to be? That is the question.

One of the greatest gifts that emerged from the industrial revolution is that women (not men) have an option to join the workforce. If she wants to work 40+ hours then quit her job to world travel, she has that option. If she seeks a part-time job at her hometown to be near her children’s school, she has that option. If she wants to devote herself to a life of a homemaker, there is that option. Underneath all the noise of the world, society will ignore a woman’s (private) decision on this issue more than a man’s decision not to participate in the workforce.

Anyone who attacks these options in the name of the “common good” is not pre-Middle Ages, but pre-language. There is nothing progressive or “new” with the idea of working from sunrise to sunset like an animal without the freedom not too.

The true girl power energy should be directed to being who you truly are. If it truly is a career woman- best of luck to you! But no one should be guilt into doing a line of work, this includes marriage and parenthood. I’ve seen many women tricked, hurt and broken by making bad decisions all because they have listened to what society has told them. If our current wave is taking the woman out of the home or forcing the woman into the kitchen- both can be troublesome and extreme. This is why a balanced lifestyle between structure and freedom to choose should always remain in a civil society.

Meanwhile, those who they took advice from on how to live, never practiced what they preached. Those who attacked marriage were married. Those who attacked money, always had money themselves. (Karl Marx, I’m talking to you.) These are the hypocrites. Then the ones who lack experience want to offer unsolicited advice: childless people writing parenting books or worst- running the board of education. People who have no interest in helping their host country seeks to run public office to (slowly) change the laws. A Spanish Pope rewriting an entire religion because of what he feels.

Once a woman learns to truly love herself. Show kindness. Be polite. Resourceful. Patient. Go through terrible experiences and overcome the tragic events with an optimistic attitude about life. Being thankful. Sincerely enjoy her place in the world. Loving the women in her life before becoming a spokeswoman for the foreign woman. Realizing giving support to the men in her life is helping the women in hers as well. A woman who didn’t fall prey to society’s control hold. She not only becomes more beautiful but inspirational to all.


Honorable mentions of  women throughout history that had their cake and ate it too:

  • Cleopatra’s hold on Julius Caesar and Marc Anthony
  • Josephine’s pull to a young Napoleon who wouldn’t move his troops without her approval
  • Mona Lisa’s smile shows the contrast between reserve and seduction
  • Bathsheba knowing when and where to get the attention from King David- as if accidental
  • Marilyn Monroe’s walk, soft speech and eye contact to get the US President’s approval